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Journal Entry 3: 30 Days in Cali…

I’ve been a bad blogger …again. I hope that every time I add to my Journal Entry chronicles, I am not self-confessing my lack of interaction. But yes, I’ve been a bad blogger again.

I’ve been scared. I feel like I’ve used that word a lot since I’ve started my journal entries – but this time around, I’ve been scared that I would jinx the happiness.

These past 30 days have been the best days of my life. 

I promised to myself at the end of 2016 that 2017 was going to be my year – my year to do what’s right for me – my year to be strong, to adventure, to make life happen for myself. I was worried that moving to Cali could actually result in me failing that. I was in a new place with one person to call my friend who had her own life to live. I worked from home, which isn’t the best way to make friends. I had no way to get around, not that I really knew where to go. The cost of living was haunting me. I was scared. I was scared of failure and loneliness.

But then it all so quickly started to fall into place and all that fear went away. And then I was scared to write. The words being printed indefinitely on paper made me feel like they would be left there as a closing and make it all come to an end. I would be jinxed. But before this I ran around the entire house knocking on every piece of wood in sight – so, here goes nothing…

They say that when things are meant to be, they work out in mysterious ways. A large part of me wants to believe that that’s true – that this move was meant to be, that everything happens for a reason, that secretly our inner being knows what’s right for us and gets us there, eventually.

This experience for me thus far has been a fairy-tale… And maybe, just maybe, it’s not a fairy-tale at all – maybe it’s just how life should be, I just haven’t lived like this yet …until now.

Since the immediate second I stepped foot into Santa Barbara I’ve been taken in by my loving cousin who would tear down bridges for me (…literally). She brought me into her world and made me a friend to everyone she knew. I was worried that, like being in a relationship somewhere new, I would then in result be living her life instead of one of my own – but oddly enough, I wasn’t.

I have new cousins who aren’t my cousins at all but have me over for family dinners, and don’t second guess my company when I crash their Sunday beer pong games (even without the OG cuz), whose kids run around calling my name to jump on the trampoline and take silly selfies with me. They add me to their group texts, invite me to movie nights and for glasses of wine and hunt down bagel bites with me at every Starbucks in town.

The same goes for every other friend of my cousins that I’ve been introduced to – I can now call them my own. Every day, without fail, someone is asking me to hang out. Fashion shows, bottle service and sparklers on my birthday, classy parties in giant houses in giant hills, photo-shoot’s, signing my first lease, consuming my body length in burritos, sun bathing on beaches with palm trees in them…

I took my first shot of tequila, drank more in the past 30 days than I have conclusively in my entire life, champed through an oyster shooter and even ate cow just for the sake of the In-N-Out experience.

The list goes on… I went into this experience very scared, overwhelmed, sad… I set my expectations very, very low and did some burying of the excitement I did have. I forced myself, instance after instance, to not get my hopes up.

So now I ask you – Is it really true, when they say what’s meant to be will be? Or is it that we (I) tend to aggressively overthink things into such intense mannerisms that we destroy all sense of hope and expectation until we take the risk, so that it has to end up being more amazing than we anticipated? Maybe knocking our expectations down (not aggressively, but you know what I mean) is what we need sometimes to be grateful and remind us that life and people really are amazing? (Not to get confused here – I mean, get out of your own inner fairy-tale of expectations – I don’t mean let people treat you like sh*t).

I’m not exactly sure what direction I’m going in with this post, because there’s so many different things I’ve learned in my 30 days of this new life so far – So I’ll give you the sum of it:

1. Life is what you make it. Plain and simple. 2. YOLO 3. Take the risk. ALWAYS. 4. It will all work out. 5. If you’re scared to do something that you really want to do, just do it. Chances are at the end of the day it will be one of the best decisions you have ever made. 6. Be kind. Smile wherever you go. Let things roll – it’s usually useless to get worked up. And don’t forget to make friends wherever you go. 7. There really are nice, inviting, friendly people out there – sometimes it just takes time to find them. Don’t let any selfishness and ignorance you’ve experienced with others bleed into your judgments of humans as a whole. 8. Even if it’s not what you want in the moment, force yourself to do what’s best for you (we all have that little gut monster telling us what’s right). You will look back, even in a weeks time, and thank yourself for it. 9. Always be genuinely you. No matter how weird or imperfect it is. If you are raw from the get-go, then your friends will be your friends – everyone will love and choose to have you around for the crazy human that you are, not who you think they want you to be. 10. Look at everything, and yourself, as a constant learning experience. Take it in – all of it.

30 days down, a lifetime to go.

xx,

Al

 

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The Happiness Tag…

This nomination made me happy, and if that doesn’t say it all about what this is then I’m not sure what does! Thanks so much to Strictly Lighthearted, for nominating me! Okay, so here’s the low-down…

In case you haven’t heard about the tag yet, the rules are simple:

1. Name 5 things that make you happy
2. Name 5 songs that make you happy
3. Nominate 5 bloggers to continue the tag

Here we goooooooooo!  🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

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Five things that make me happy:

1. POTATOES  I know, I sound quite ridiculous but this is the honest truth. Everything potato is just MMMM. Fries, potato salad, mashed, baked, chips, soup.. UGH

2. MY SIBLINGS  I have 5 of them and they are all my best friends. So sweet, loving, bright, and hysterical. They are my true and everlasting happiness.

3. POETRY  read it, love it, embrace it 😛 http://www.deeperthanwordsblog.wordpress.com

4. ANIMALS, ALL OF THEM seriously. I squeal and it gets a bit ridiculous.

5. DANCING A night out of dancing to some amazing music with friends hits top 5.

BONUS: THE OCEAN – I had to add this one in… I have way too many favorites 😛

Five songs that make me happy:

This is really hard… all of my favorite songs are sad (lol) These are more like songs that I’m really into that aren’t sad…

  1. Alaska – Maggie Rogers

2.  Mardy Bum – Arctic Monkeys

3.  Strawberry Swing – Coldplay

4. Back to Black – Amy Winehouse

5. Pity Party – Melanie Martinez

Five Bloggers I Nominate

  1. Chloe Cashmere
  2. I Write For You Sweetheart
  3. The Chiara
  4. Soul Palette
  5. Ari Couture

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Chic Ways To Travel: Airport Style…

If the stress of packing isn’t enough for you, then here’s the next thing to add to your to-do list: picking the most comfortable, yet head turning chic outfit to run around the airport in. Yes, I’m serious about this. As a fashionista myself, I strive for excellence at all times, but the airport in particular is one instance I like to leave an impression and feel good about myself, as should you. There’s nothing I envy more than a female with the, ‘I’m just so casually chic, I don’t even have to try’ look. You know, those girls with the crazy messy bun but it looks like a famous hair stylist created it? Ugh, the envy.

The reality is, they most likely put in as much effort on their hair and outfits as you do for a special occasion. And there isn’t many worse feelings than looking like a slob and seeing other people so beautifully put together, even in sweats, and trust me, I see them every time I’m at the airport… which is a lot. Be at your best whenever you can. Life is your runway, and the airport is the best way to showcase it because it’s the one place where you’re making an impression on hundreds of people from all over the world. Not only that, but it’s amazing to feel amazing and confident in yourself. I know, why should you care what other people think? And you shouldn’t, you should always be you, regardless of anything in life, but you should care what you think. And remember also, being in a place with hundreds of people from everywhere, many traveling alone, you never know who you could meet. Now, I’m not saying throw on your heels and strut your stuff into the Dunkin’ Donuts line to order yourself some munchkins. I’m saying be the Gigi Hadid of airport people (I guess that entails Starbucks instead?)…

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Gigi has awesome style all the time, even at the airport, hair tossed up with a pair of sweats and sneakers…

 

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(there it is! that bun!)

…and then get your munchkins (or venti iced vanilla latte with coconut milk). Take some inspiration and advice from celebrities like Kendall Jenner…

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It’s as simple as that! One of the easiest ways to look effortlessly chic while staying comfortable is layering, color coordination, a good black bag and a trendy pair of shoes.

The best advice to take from all of this is, you can be comfortable and stylish all while making an impression, even in sweats and leggings (and in the books of Kendall and Gigi, clearly don’t forget your sunglasses). Don’t forget to be your best self all the time, and I mean this not just in attire either. Smile at strangers, be confident in yourself (a good outfit can achieve this!), and always go out of your way for strangers even if they don’t for you, airport or no airport.

 

Pink DCFW…

Dress: Loft

Shoes: Aldo

My lovely friend Tai and I went to a DC Fashion Week show and she wore this adorable dress! It looked so amazing on her, so I thought I would share it with you all! And it was such a bargain! Light and flowy, it’s great for the hot autumn days we’re still having here in DC. We had so much fun walking the streets of Georgetown for the afternoon and then going to the show at night. This truly is the perfect transitional day to night dress.

See more pics from the night on my Instagram: @TheStyleStudies

xo,

A

Online Favourites…

A friends recently asked me what my favorite online shopping sites were, and that got me thinking, I have tons I would love to share with all of you! So there are the basics… such as Topshop, Zara, Asos, River Island, etc. but I thought I would take this time to share with you some of my favorites that you might not have ever heard of. So here are my top 10 favorite online stores (in no specific order, and disclosing the previous ones just stated which I absolutely adore :P), and a few of my current favorite pieces from them…

ps. you can click on each photo to view it on the website ❤

1.Missguided

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2. Runway Scout

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3. Mura Boutique

This is an Australian store, and it’s about to be summer there so all of their items are summer related. They still have great pieces and can get their winter items on sale when their season is over! What a win!

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4. Public Desire

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5. Pretty Little Thing

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6. Mishkah Fashion

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6 1/2. Shopping Bare

For some reason, they are redoing their online store and are currently under construction. Check out some of their pieces they have posted on their Instagram page (@Shopping_bare)… If you like it, sign up online to get notified when their online shop re-opens!

7. New Look

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8. Mossman Clothing

Love Profusion SkirtThe Armed Forces DressThe Waffle PantThe Beautiful Stranger Trench

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10. White Fox Boutique

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Plaid Accents…

 

  
  
  
  
   WHAT IM WEARING:

Top: Forever 21 (last season)

Jeans: Missguided

Heels: Missguided (On Sale!!!)

Plaid Shirt: Charlotte Rousse (last season)

It’s an extremely gloomy, rainy day here in DC. As soon as I was ready to take some pictures, it started to pour 😦 Lucky enough, it cleared for the rest of the night! My lovely boyfriend was my photographer and actually did so much better than I expected! Although he made fun of me most of the time, I think I’ll keep him (; This is such a casual chic outfit that can be worn for a night out, or with a pair of sneakers for a day having lunch with some friends. I haven’t had many opportunities to expand my closet recently (aka go shopping :P) so I’ve done a lot of playing around with the pieces I have. I think that’s one of the key necessities to being a stylish individual. Spending isn’t always available and we don’t all get clothes for free like the many blogger inspirations we see with new pieces nearly every other day. Making the most of the pieces you have is key. One pair of jeans can make 5 different significant outfits that never look the same! Keep an open mind 🙂

XO,

Al

Fall Style Trends via Vogue

After drooling over the whopping 835 pages of Vogue’s September issue, the trends for this Fall are prominently splashed across pages covered in Saint Laurent, Valentino, Chanel and more. Compilations of notes later, I’ve put together for you the ultimate style guide to this fall straight from Vogue itself, and where you can find the best pieces at the best prices (and it’s looking pretty 70s)…

Suede & Fringe

as seen in H&M, Vince Camuto, Burberry, Sam Edelman, Express…

This was seen all over handbags, shoes, skirts, jackets and more. And can be found in some of your favourite stores like H&M! Here are some of my favourite pieces and where you can find them..

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Dull Florals

as seen in Gucci, MIchael Kors, Stella McCartney, Lanvin…

Fashion is seriously bringing out the 70s colors again… browns, pale greens, reds, beige, etc… If it’s in your outfit, you’re spot on. Here are a few affordable pieces that I love…

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Wacky 70s Prints

as seen in Gucci, Dior, Loewe… 

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Block Heels & Loafers

as seen in Givenchy, Valentino, Bally, Max Mara, Prada, Junya Wantanbe, Dior, J.Crew, Kate Spade…

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Wool/Houndstooth/Herringbone

as seen in Prada, Dior, Chanel, Michael Kors, Simone Rocha, Hugo Boss, Kate Spade…

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Fur

as seen in Coach, Escada, Miu Miu, Celine, Saint Laurent, Ralph Lauren, Bally, Marc Jacobs, Fendi, Bahmin, Gucci, Kate Spade, Louis Vuitton, J.Crew, Lanvin…

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Flares/Wide Leg/Cullottes

as seen in J Brand, Alexander McQueen, 

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Hope this helps you get trendy and ready for fall!

Xo,

A

Wish List: DressLink

DressLink is an affordable online clothing shop that is up to trend and always keeps you in budget. They have all the basics you could ever need and the outfits you’ve always wanted but didn’t want to spend large sums on! Here are some of my favorite finds and my current Wish List…

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Bomber Jacket

Leather Skirt

Animal Flats
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Polka Dot Two Piece

Kyle Jenner Red Dress

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See more fab finds on their website!
XO,
A

Color Wheel…

 

  

Top: Francesca’s Boutique

Jeans: LF Stores 

Heels: Missguided (50% off!)

Sunnies: RayBan

After a visit to LF Stores in NYC last spring I fell in love with these boho chic boyfriend jeans and needed them in my closet. They are a fun, bold statement piece which is definitely a necessity in any wardrobe! Dramatic statement pieces always create breathe taking street style and easily build your empire as a fashionista.

xo,

A

Ocean Breeze…

  

 

Dress: Mono B (register & check out their pieces!)

I found this gorgeous dress in a little boutique in downtown Bristol, RI. It’s so incredibly stunning in the simplest way! It’s very thin and breezy, and makes me feel oh-so-glam (; It has a very tiny slight lift in the front and drape in the back so it’s never a bother when walking around. It’s up there with my top 3 favourite pieces this summer! And I found it on sale! (my mom bought it for me, thanks mom :P) I’m not the biggest fan of maxi dresses but this one is killer! I paired it with this gorgeous gold statement necklace that I got last winter in another Boutique in Bristol called Jackies Loft. Gold is a great color with this dress! When I tried it on in the store I was wearing a gold body chain underneath and it looked stunning!

XO,

A