Month: January 2015

Lovely Words : The Fight For Respect

via just-the-way-you-arent

This was very touching for me. I hope it can impact you just the same.

“My rapist doesn’t know he’s a rapist. You taught him it wasn’t his fault, I drank too much, flirted and my shorts too short. I was asking for it. He left me in a parking garage staircase. My (ex)boyfriend spit in my face, he called me a SLUT, he called me a whore. I deserved it. My friends gave me dirty looks. They called me trash, not realizing it could have been them. This culture, your culture, my culture, told them, told me, this was my fault. And I suffered. But my rapist doesn’t know he’s a rapist. I am not ashamed. I will take a stand. – SlutWalk, DC 2011”

Here’s some more lovely inspiration that will make your day, or maybe even your week… here

Make a difference.


Lovely Words: Slaves of the Ordinary

Today’s quote hits all the right spots in all the right places for how I’ve been feeling lately… I’ll be carrying this one around with me for awhile. I hope you will too…

“Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.”

-Cecil Beaton, Photographer

(Image: Marilyn Monroe photographed by Cecil Beaton)

XO Enjoy,


State & Occupation

I’ve had a struggle for inspiration and creativity lately. I’ve always been and strived to be unique, but lately I feel the flows of society reeling me in. It used to come easy for me, to like weird things and always wear strange pieces of clothes. The best compliment I ever received was, “You always wear the uglies clothes, but you make them look so good. I don’t know how you do it.” Yup, and I remember it like it was yesterday, because it pretty much satisfied my innermost feelings of creativity and individualism for the rest of my life (I really mean that… because it still does). Ahhhh the relief I felt. I was different. But I’m panicking at the loss of feeling lately. After scrolling through some category posts, I came across the blog, State & Occupation written by the smart, beautiful Dakota Barber. I couldn’t believe what a unique, quirky page she had. I’ve never seen something so different and inspiring! So I write this post, not only to express my emotions of desire to expand my individual creativity by asking you to share some with me, but by giving you some by showing you her page. You truly will be in awe. Keep on creating and embrace the beauty of others.

Enjoy xo


Lovely Words #1: The Future is the Past

I have always been incredibly inspired by writing, and have kept a ‘quote’ journal for many years. So I’ve decided to start posting some daily inspiration from my journals; some beautifully written phrases, and pieces of sweet love I’ve found along the way.

So here it goes….

“Why didn’t I learn to treat everything like it was the last time? My greatest regret was how much I believed in the future.”

-Jonathan Safran Foer, Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close



Headspace. Get Some.

I’ve had a troublesome few days, to say the least. I’ve been half a week back into reality. No more family, presents, late nights watching movies, and all the warm fuzzy moments of the holidays (dreary, right!?). Just as my week started, so did a snow storm, which, automatically means no work! Now this can sound like a good thing, but not for someone who gets paid on an hourly basis. My gym-freak obsessed boyfriend just had to go to the gym in the slowly, but surely piling snow and of all things, in my car (my SUV was the better option over his small Audi TT). On his way home from his travels, he slid off the road into a mound of snow and mud and was stuck in this awful ditch. Can you imagine my stress?? Luckily there was no damage to the car, or him, but it only took a few hours for another unfortunate event. He left the car battery on over night, and the cable wires aren’t working. What are the chances, right? Could my week get any worse? Well, it did. In the short distance from the kitchen, straight out the door and to the car, I lost my phone. In a snow pile, or somewhere along the way to it, it’s just oh-so-casually floating about, nowhere to be found.

After these stressful, frustrating few days, I’ve been able to find a little relief in meditation. I read about the benefits online a few times, but never knew exactly how to do it. After seeing a small description about an App called Headspace in InStyle, I downloaded it and gave it a try. Of course, this was all before I lost my phone. But because I did the few sessions that I did before losing my phone, I was able to learn some things and give it a shot on my own these past few days.

And, NO. You don’t have to be in some beautiful serene place and be sitting criss-cross apple sauce to meditate like in the picture. That’s the great thing about Headspace! It teaches you all the things that meditation is, and isn’t.

It gives you a 10 minute session per day that vocally guides you to a perfect balance of calm relaxing ‘headspace’ and teaches you all the right, wrong, and normal feelings and ways of meditation. It’s free to download, and the first amount of 10 minutes sessions are basically like a tree trial, and if you like the app you can pay to get the full benefits of its art in meditation (which I strongly recommend!) I finally knew what I was doing (and only two sessions later still feel a bit confused) but the app is just so comforting, and answers every question you could imagine.

Here’s some more information and even some short videos that you can check out to find out some more info on Headspace!

I hope maybe this can help improve your days a little more, cause it definitely did for me 🙂


XO – A

Sexy Baby the Documentary

Hey everyone!

While bored, freezing cold and embracing my recent snow day, I was scrolling through my Netflix account and ran across the documentary “Sexy Baby” by Jill Bauer and Ronna Gradus. Described as a documentary in which explores the lives of three very different girls living in todays society and media overload, and how they’ve individually been affected by it. Right away I was intrigued. I’ve taken a women studies class in college and have deeply explored our cultures sexual phenomenon. I so badly wish to enhance people’s insight on this topic, especially mens, who on many occasions have thrown comments in my face about the topic, like “you’re all just looking for attention,” “if you want respect then stop being sluts,” and so much more. Ugh the ignorance blows my mind.

I’ve seen many documentaries on society and the way woman are represented and treated because of the way they are projected in the media, but this one was different. This documentary didn’t try to push the point on how wrong it is, it doesn’t blame the media, and how men and woman should change. It’s not example after example of the exploitation of women’s bodies in magazines and the way men control them. This simply catches the reality of three women’s lives in today’s society and lets you reflect on your own the way they are affected and are rounded by social media, sex, and exploitation. It leaves you to judge what’s wrong and right, and to realize how deeply the lives of not only these girls have been shaped, but even yours and the people around you. There’s no explanation necessary. So please, spare the 82 minutes of your life and watch this documentary. It’s truly eye-opening.

Oh, and if you haven’t already, check out Lilly Allen’s song, “Fear“.

Yours truly, A. xo